Sheryl Ziegler, Doctor of Psychology, shares what mothers need in their lives in order to experience happiness and help prevent …
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the accuracy of this is actually scary
A woman is fundamentally miserable and unsatisfied no matter what.
As a mum you give up your body, your lovelife, your hobbies, your career, your friends, your sleep, your energy, your… it's exhausting. Becoming a mom is so diffrent than becoming a dad.
I haven't left my house in 2 weeks and Im slowly losing my mind. Dont be a stay at home mom its miserable. There is no one to call. They all disappeared. I dont even have family members willing to babysit so I can go to a therapist.
We miss our village. Did you hear what she said? She drover herself to the hospital.
We’re not just moms, we are cooks, maids, nurses, teachers, therapist, providers, everything for our kids.
Boomer grandparents that give no support, despite getting loads from their parents, are a huge part of the problem
You were in a "happy good marriage" and had "lots of childhood friends".. but was in excruciating pain for 2 days and drove yourself to the hospital… where you were so happy to be alone. I wouldnt call that a good marriage or friends.
i think about disappearing and not tell anyone where i’m going and i don’t think anyone would try to find me or help me
It hurts being a mom we aren’t cool it’s not cool to care or love your mom according to my family if i disappear no one would notice or care
They think metermaid work is somehow more relevant than birthing and raising a new generation.
My mom is single parent and she will never married because her devoted relationship to Jesus. As much as I try to be supportive son I can’t be the one to tell her what she needs to do.. I really would love to see my mother become the flower she ment to be and bloom.
I want to help my wife but she is unable to verbalize what or where she needs help. I’ve been playing a lonely game of guessing what will make her happy. She always says I need to focus on myself, but I can see the emptiness screaming from her body but feel helpless to fulfill that void. I never knew this was a real thing until I experienced it. As a father, sometimes we need a little guidance trying to help navigate this uncharted territory. Don’t push away, lean in. Accept that someone on the other side wants to love you.
Its hard!!! Lets hang in there no matter how crazy we tend to get ❤
I’m not even a mom but if ur a mom that’s litearly like saying uve been thru a war (not rly but kinda) moms go thru sm it so exhausting for my mom it’s like she never got to be alone and always had to do stuff for kids everyday
Problém is still here … I cant wait for my hospital fantasy 😢
You can’t have kids fulfill your soul
Jesus does
This explains so much about why families feel disconnected even when they love each other deeply. Emotional safety really is the foundation.
I'm sorry but I switched off 3 minutes into this video. I was looking for a psychology deep dive on why mothers invalidate their daughters. I am sick to death of women playing the woe is me card.
Raising children is hard work, so if you're not up to it, don't bring children into this world. They don't ask to be born! The trouble with modern day women is they're too ambitious, want it all, then get depressed when they've put too much pressure on themselves. Grow up FGS!! I am 46 and childless and proud of it.
I was not going to have children only to resent them for needing me. Women like the one here really irritate me!
I hoped this would help. The Books and Music.
LMAOOOO that hospital fantasy is so real.. I was bleeding out in the hospital one night and I was just like… Dam, this is actually so nice.. quitting work to take care of everyone full time doesn't even feel equal. Sped kid and husband. I still get burnt out I just yell a lot less.
I respectfully don’t agree with this video. For me, motherhood has been the most healing and rewarding experience of my entire life. Before becoming a mom, I was surrounded by people—what looked like a vibrant social circle—but I was deeply lonely. I struggled with depression, anxiety, and panic attacks, even while living a life many would dream of. I had financial freedom, luxury, and what most would call success, but I felt empty inside.
Becoming a mother rebirthed my soul. My son, now four years old, gave my life a depth of meaning and purpose I never knew I needed. Through parenting him, I’ve been able to heal layers of mother hunger and emotional pain I carried since childhood. I’m a mindful, present mom, and this journey has been the most profound decision I’ve ever made.
Without my son, I genuinely believe I would have continued down a path of silent suffering—lonely, unfulfilled, and disconnected from self-love. He saved my life in ways I can’t fully describe. And yes, I only have one child—but it only took one to transform everything.
Women detest stability and responsibility, that's why they're not happy when there are people who love them, care for them and depend on them.
What would the best advice be to meet new people if you moved to a new area? I am thinking of joining the local YMCA. My husband and I WFH while our girls are in daycare.
My heart goes out to you guys … I can relate because I try to do everything I can around the house so my wife does nothing but that too can cause a problem because now she finds new intermacy so idk but I try to be the best dad i can but mother hood is on a another different level of difficulty
It was when I joined the local church that I was able to feel like I wasn't lonely any longer. I'm creating a family outside of our little family. We count on one another, all in the spirit of God.
Because they have lost their oxytocin and their shame.
Motherhood is hard.
Still accurate in 2025
The thing is that I do believe that this problem and “problems with no name” applies for both parents…. Not just one gender
🌸 Such a powerful and validating talk — thank you Dr. Ziegler for bringing so much honesty to the struggles mothers face. The reminder about connection and self-care is so important 💜 For moms who find it hard to unwind at night, I share peaceful sleep stories and calming meditations on my channel that may offer a quiet space to rest and recharge 🌙✨
We have zero family members here in NJ. It's ALWAYS just us three. I never have a place to go when I need time away. I hate the weekends and Summers.
This applies the same to men. We're all lonely. Technology is killing us. It's nature's way.
Another reason to not have kids…
I wish that I had someone to call on and talk to, but everybody is just so busy and nobody ever has time to talk so it’s literally just me and my husband and our two kids and he’s at work 12 hours out of the day and I’m at home with kids all day
Women are lazy.
It's very serious how a lot of women are so miserable! Women don't put a little of support financially and they do they have any excuse to not split chores ! You have to go outside the real world before getting married! Thats why you can't balance chores plus you have to teach your kids to help with chores even if is just their toys ! Talk to husband if you are not capable to the handle chores and take over car repairs home repairs accounts planning for the whole year , planning for the investment accounts etc ! But talk and don't play blind when man tells you his s3$√| needs as well plan to go on a date hire a maid pay baby sitter , but open mind and mouse to work as a team !
Men and women r different
Waiting for the day women can take some accountability. The main issue with struggling mothers are their choices and expectations!